Age 9 my daughter, A, was diagnosed with a chronic anxiety disorder and OCD. We believed she was on the autistic spectrum but were told she didn’t fulfil diagnostic criteria. No help from CAMHS.
At 15 Anorexia developed. Still no help.
At 16 taken to A&E for a self inflicted wound and was found to have an irregular heartbeat. She was admitted to the general hospital for NG feeding and subsequently transferred to an ATU 60 miles from home.
She stayed intermittently over a period of 18 months. Fortunately the unit was run by an extremely efficient and caring team, led by the one psychiatrist I totally admire and respect. The families feelings were considered and listened to. The team were open and honest throughout. Medication was tried but stopped when proving to have a detrimental effect. After care from the unit was superb. At the end of 18 months she was physically well but the doctor admitted they were no further forward in finding the underlying cause.
At this stage we sought a private assessment from a family friend who was a consultant clinical psychologist. The report stated that A had a deficit in her executive functioning and that future clinicians should be careful not to attribute her behaviour to BPD.
We had a level of optimism as we progressed to adult services but sadly this was short lived as the psychiatrist failed to acknowledge the report and implied I was an overprotective mother blowing things out of proportion.
Inspite of little help and a lack of understanding from adult services A was physically well. Mentally she was still struggling and her self injury got significantly worse. After two suicide attempts she was admitted to hospital on a voluntary basis. At the point of admission she was only on a non therapeutic dose of an anti depressant. She was not aggressive. Our local unit is a holding place only, meds were given but no therapy and no expertise in anorexia. Initially A wanted to stay as they permitted her to starve. Needless to say her physical and mental heath deteriorated to such an extent that coming home was no longer an option. We had to agree to A being sectioned so she could be transferred to a specialist unit. It took several months to get approval for funding. At this stage I again questioned the diagnosis of BPD and stated that their proposed treatment wouldn’t work.
A was sent to the priory in London, 200 miles from home. Their treatment didn’t work. After four months she was transferred to a low secure forensic unit in Cardiff, 70 miles from home. We hoped that a new team would question previous failures.
The new team resented any comments from the family and we were told “we’re her family now”. They did their best to alienate us and ignored any constructive suggestions we made. Their treatment was punitive and lacked structure. She was over medicated, restrained for many hours on numerous occasions and was made to wear a helmet continuously. She became aggressive so was put in seclusion in a converted bathroom on a mattress on a concrete floor where she stayed for 10 months. Complaints were made to Health Care Inspectorate and the safe guarding team but to no avail. The family was never privy to any documentation. Ombudsman did not uphold any of the 10 complaints we made. The RC requested A be transferred to another unit, one of the reasons being the families inappropriate interference. They were unable to find a suitable low secure placement. Following conflicting opinions a decision was made to transfer A to a medium secure forensic unit in Northampton, 220 miles from home. Several attempts were made by the family to prevent this happening including consultation with the Welsh Assembly. Prior to the final decision some comments made were: A should take responsibility for her behaviours – she has capacity to control her actions; A would benefit from being away from her family and Wales; A should be put through the judicial system.
A was initially placed in an assessment unit. The unit was brutal and showed no compassion or understanding. Further trauma and significant deterioration. No change in diagnosis. She was moved to another ward where initially there was an improvement. The RC had a different approach and for the first time since A had been in hospital, now five years, we felt A was in a therapeutic environment. Then the RC change and I quote one of A’s peers “more meds, more punishment, less freedom. This proved to be true.
At this time our home team had a new consultant. He observed the many references to ASD in A’s developmental history. He referred us to a consultant specialising in ASD. The result of this assessment was that A had obvious developmental neurological problems which needed to be further explored. The RC categorically denied that A was autistic because she was warm and friendly. She also stated that she felt the home team had been unprofessional in requesting the assessment. Both the commissioners and the current RC supported her decision.
As a result of our AM’s increasing support A’s RC requested an assessment by a consultant from their own ASD unit. We felt there was a conflict of interest and the assessment only took half and hour. The result states that A has obvious autistic traits but is not autistic. In the doctor’s opinion “it is possible, indeed likely given the reports that I have seen that her autistic symptoms were much more prominent when she was a child. This may have led to her having social difficulties which could have acted as precipitating factor for her mental health condition”. During a meeting with this doctor she stated that A should be on a ward for women with autism but there isn’t one available!
Some of the current major concerns:-
She currently has a toothbrush in her lower intestine which she swallowed 18 months ago.
She recently had gangrenous tissue removed from her arm. I believe this arose from an incident when her 2:1 staff both fell asleep, resulting in A biting a chunk of flesh from her arm requiring 10 stitches. The wound is still infected.
Barely eating – menu plan not sufficient to sustain any human being.
Heavily medicated – obvious side effects with no known benefit. Forced medication.
Environment not conducive to well being.
On going staff shortages resulting in a dangerous environment. On New Years Eve police had to be called to the ward and a patient was tasered.
Untrained agency staff.
Excessive restraining resulting in bruising.
Missing personal possessions – to the value of £800
Frequently inaccurate reports.
For the past 18 months our phone calls have been limited to 3 x 20 minutes per week (prior to this we’d speak for up to three hours a day). Our conversations are restricted and recorded by a senior member of staff. No privacy – no Human Rights.
This is a brief summary of my daughter’s life within the mental health system – a living hell. I’ve barely touched on the tortuous experiences she has had to endure. A human rights solicitor has agreed to represent me but will be focusing on A’s physical health. Our AM is proposing to visit with A with the next month. She continues to fight to help A but has no support from our health minister.
I would like to take this opportunity to thank the many members of staff who have supported A with care and compassion.
Praying for a miracle for A everyday. when will our mental health service recognise and treat autism appropriately? why do the pshych Drs not have a clue about anything except meds $o$ FFS!
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I regret not getting a lawyer involved before my son died It’s a tough one I know oscar would beg me not to make a fuss otherwise they might up his meds which he hated – I know it’s tough but see if you can get legal help now. Best thoughts – jonathan ( father of oscar andersson
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years have been spent trying to find a lawyer who is prepared to take on the case, as the difficulty is finding a lawyer who will take on the metal health system and see through the lies and misleading records written by the godlike Drs and recognise the difference between drug reactions and psychosis and autism, difficult enough for a Dr. from what I understand the nursing staff and Drs only get an hour in their training to understand autism, its the whole system needs changing, it is nothing more than a corrupt cash cow for big pharma and our loved ones are no better than lab rats to big corporations
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Our hearts break reading this story. There can absolutely be no excuse in this day and age for the lack of human rights and institutional trauma inflicted upon already vulnerable patients and their families. We are appalled that families are experiencing this living hell.
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My sister has had Anorexia for 40 years. I have no doubt that her treatment during that time has made her condition and her life so much worse. Only once during this period has she had any decent therapeutic input and she was beginning to make progress but it all fell apart when she returned to the community and they refused to follow guidelines and a method of care that had helped. As a family member if you complain you are branded a troublemaker. They do their best to create disharmony in the family by hiding behind confidentiality to protect themselves which facilitates the illness whilst at the same time showing no respect for the confidentiality of the family.She has tried to commit suicide twice and they have let her weight get so low that she has nearly died. On those occasions the family have had to do everything possible to have her admitted. I know she wont live much longer I also know that when she does die we won’t see her community team for dust and we will be left to reflect on her life and the illness that caused so much pain and suffering within the family. It didnt/doesnt need to be like that.
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So sorry your family’s had to endure this. I feel my daughter has never had the chance to get well, they set her up to fail from the beginning. It really doesn’t need to be like this.
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So sorry for the suffering your daughter and family have had to endure. It is not right and so covered up, we families know what is going on in these institutions, money thrown at them by NHS England but no accountability or consistent therapuetic care but it is allowed to keep happening. My daughters experience is very similiar to yours, she was diagnosed with ASD when she was 16 having had mental health issues since the age of 13 starting with anorexia.We thought going into hospital would help but she got proggressively worse especially in terms of self harm.To be honest we had no idea then about mental health hospitals because it is all so secretive just assumed they would make her better just like a general hsopital would fix a broken leg. So naive back then! She has been in 8 different hospitals and now 19 diagnosed with EUPD even though doctors know she has ASD, the symptons when someone with ASD is distressed or anxious are very similar and she has used her mimicking skills to fit in with other patients on mental health wards. Mimicking for girls with ASD is something they learn from an early age which is why diagnosis comes later but you know your daughter better than anyone and you know what she needs. So keep fighting and saying the same things and hopefully someone will listen. In my daughter case she is in a unit for women with EUPD but the consultant has been willing to listen when I said she needed routine, consistency and regular interaction with known staff, to know what the timeline for things are, kindness and rehabilitation in to the community. It has been a year long program and we hope to have her out this year but in the right environment our daughters can get help and I hope that can be found for your daughter.
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Thank you for your comment. So sorry you and your family have had to endure a similar experience. We’re still battling to get my daughter a proper assessment in spite of the fact I have two organisations offering to assess her for free. The commissioners are reluctant to agree to the assessment and the only logical explanation I can come up with is that they don’t want to admit they were wrong. We will keep battling though. So pleased your daughter has a consultant that’s prepared to listen and that she’s making progress. Sincerely hope she’ll be out soon.
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